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A Letter To The Society

Published on January 6, 2018January 6, 2018 by Lavanya Pulijala6 Comments

This is going to be a post which is very personal to me and which is described entirely based on my own perspective. Hope you like it 🙂

Dear Society,

Who decides your rules?

Who does your moral policing?

Is it those who support modernization or is it the bunch of people who are still stuck in the zone where they are not able to accept any change?

Is it those who consider wearing a crop-top a sin while wearing a saree is decent even though the extent of exposure is same!!!?

Is it those who rip us naked with their looks in case they found us wearing something below the knees?

(Omg!! You need to take care of your clothes such that those people don’t comment about you!!

Oh yeah!! Why not wear a Burkha that covers you all-over? Oh no!! If you have a bigger bust, then even that would not help !! Chuck-it, you just need to ignore or probably get used to those creepy looks!! )

Coming back to those people who design the moral policing for our beloved society,

Is it those who look down on an unmarried 30-yr old happy independent woman?

Is it those who start pestering parents to get a ladka for their beti as soon as she graduates?

Is it those who judge a woman’s character by the length of her dress?

Is it those who are completely fine with a guy wearing a boxer and walking on the street but who are, at the same time, not fine with a girl doing that?

Is it those who try to curb the enthusisasm of an ambitious woman?

Is it those who try to silence the voice of any outspoken woman who is trying to fight for her rights?

Is it those who judge a woman’s character if she smokes or drinks?

Is it those who make it difficult for anyone to take up any offbeat profession?

(You know, there are too many people offering you free advices!! They find interest in what you are up to than thinking about how to improve themselves!! )

Is it those who blindly assume that a girl has to compromise with her interests when she is getting married?

Is it those who feel that the guy is doing a favour to the girl while marrying by accepting huge amount of dowry?

I don’t understand the extent to which these people dictate society moral policing. Even though, there are a really brilliant set of people trying to change the perspective of this society, it is only these ill-minded people who have a larger voice in declaring what is morally right and what is absolutely wrong.

Can we change this for good?

Yours Lovingly,

A Woman who strives to stand out in the mad crowd!!

These might seem like an everyday thing and many of you might be ignoring it. But, for me, as a person who found passion in fashion blogging (an interest which is significantly different from what people do in the society my parents live in), it is really getting frustrating to think about my moves just because my parents think that my so-called well wishers open my blog / FB / Instagram and start cribbing behind my back about my clothes rather than directly questioning me.

So, to all such people who pretend to be my well-wishers rather than being one in reality, if you are reading this post, an advice may be – I guess you have a better life to deal with!! Invest time wisely, more for yourselves and probably less for others 🙂

And to all other lovely people, a sincere thanks for believing in my work. I promise to deliver much more inspiring content in fashion, travel and life 🙂

The support you guys keep showing me, could be in terms of the messages you send or the comments or likes, that’s what keep my passion and me going. Even though, I couldn’t thank you personally, I genuinely feel so grateful for your love.

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My Own Tales!! QnA

Published on August 19, 2017October 10, 2017 by Lavanya Pulijala2 Comments

This blog post is definitely going to be quite different from other posts. I am going to answer the questions that many of you have asked me on Instagram and Facebook.

Going to be as precise as I can 🙂

Here we go!!

Are you planning to have a career in fashion blogging in future?

Absolutely 🙂 Fashion genuinely interests me. It has always been fun to play around with fashion to create new looks. Styling is definitely something that I would look forward to make a career in.

When did you feel that you have interest in fashion?

It all started as a challenge during my engineering which later started slowly turning into my interest.There is a friend of mine who claimed that I had a very bad sense of dressing.That’s when it started, I took it as a challenge to prove him wrong ( Thanks to him 😀 ) I started observing people everywhere ( I used to even watch movies for the sole purpose of checking out the costumes) . The kind of trends that people are following, how they are styling accessories and how I could improve my style. Observation is the best teacher. But my interest took an important turn when I stepped into Bombay for my job where I have started seeing colleagues and other people around having incredible sense of styling.I started trying new trends and avoided sticking to the monotonous dressing. Slowly, a couple of my friends ( Ganesh, Sampath) and my mom started encouraging me to start blogging in fashion as I show insane interest in it.That’s how the blog started 🙂

The most craziest thing you have done so far

22 hrs of Goa road trip, getting almost caught by police (3 times in the same day) , the most scariest midnight ride through a secluded road in the woods (not even a dog was present ), deciding to extend the trip for one more day when we were actually leaving Goa and finally, ending up in a very gruesome road accident ( where I didn’t realize that our car was twirling for the first two twirls because I was busy sleeping 😛 ), meeting an important person in life – All this happened in just four days of our Goa trip.

Your favorite fashion icons/bloggers

Among bloggers, my current favorites are Kritika Khurana, Chriselle lim, Divya. Sonam Kapoor’s fashion , Sanam Ratansi and Devki ‘s styling is something I admire the most.

How do you find something that brings happiness to you?

Happiness is a relative term.What brings happiness to you might not bring happiness to me.Few people find happiness in small things while few don’t. It all depends on how you perceive the things that come your way.

How can you be sure that something will continue to bring happiness for the rest of your life?

I believe that this was asked in terms of deciding something as your passion, continuing with it and later not liking it. Atleast, in my case, it is my confidence that I can style differently that is currently keeping me going. Regarding being sure that it would continue to give me happiness – I am not sure but currently, I am just believing my interest in fashion.If it doesn’t bring me happiness later, I will explore other options 🙂

Luxurious villa having a wardrobe filled with top brands or a beach house surrounded by serene surroundings?

Definitely, a beach house 😀

It’s great that your parents have agreed for modelling.How did you convince them?

Guys, this is not modelling. I don’t aspire to become one either. Even some of my peers ( leave alone my orthodox relatives) don’t understand the difference between modelling and fashion blogging (#facepalm). Modelling is where, a model dresses up to showcase someone’s creation of fashion( A model need not have any own sense of fashion/styling and most importantly, they don’t style their own looks).What I am trying to do is blogging about fashion to explain the ways of styling and I am trying to convey it through images so that people understand.

One thing I hate the most

Diplomacy

What makes people attractive?

Confidence

What is one hobby that you plan to pick up?

Learn new language

All time favorite fashion trend?

Denim and a loose tee

I have received too many questions and I tried to answer most of them.If I have missed anything here, I am going to DM my answers on Instagram.

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F.I.E.R.C.E

Published on March 8, 2017May 31, 2017 by Lavanya Pulijala2 Comments

“I am not the size of my jeans, I am the size of my smile.

I am not a number on a weighing machine, I am the strength that I carry.

I am not the complexion I am born with, I am the blush on my cheek.

I am not the patches on my skin, I am the scars I have endured.

I am not the length of dress, I am the beauty that blazes within.

I am not a type you want me to fit in, I am beyond your comprehension.

I am courage, I am fire, I am a burning desire.

I am not who you want me to be, I am who I am ” -RK

As inspiring as these words seem to be, it’s important to be who you are, to define yourself, to come out of the cocoons and face the world the way you like and not the way others want you to be 🙂

Happy Women’s Day to all gorgeous women out there 😀

Capturing the boldness of a modern woman along with the simplicity and style of a traditional attire is challenging. I have been trying to put forth looks depicting a blend of wilderness and rustic essence using our age-old handloom fabrics. Since the handlooms are so much in trend among the Indian designers, I have worked on using that fabric in this look.

The graciously arranged pleats of a saree , the rustic feel of the handloom, the high heeled black boots, the white leather jacket along with a tinge of bold red define the essence of my current look. The black can’t make me fade away, the red ensured my look is on point and my boots break the notion of a stereotypical saree look.Leather jacket went hand in hand with the boots.Attention to intricacies while choosing the accessories is the most vital part.

I have been trying to define my style as something that breaks the stereotype of any outfit and hence, the boots and the jacket. I have chosen a solid black plain saree and accessorized using a clutch from Rann of Kutch,an antique neck piece.I didn’t want to go heavy with the earrings since my neck piece is dominant enough and stuck to my choice of red lipstick for the bold look.